ARE YOU AN ANGRY MAN?
Angry Men Are Often Misunderstood. The Angry Man is often called abusive—emotionally, verbally and sometimes physically. He rages like a hurricane, hurting those closest to him. Tragically, he is often completely unaware that his anger is rooted in intense and painful feelings including shame, self-hatred, fear of failure, loneliness and rejection.
8 Simple Questions:
- Has it ever been suggested that you might have a problem with anger?
- Do you sometimes wonder why you get so angry, or angry so often?
- Do you stay angry and bitter at people that have treated you unjustly or unfairly?
- Are you impatient or intolerant of yourself and others?
- Have you been told (more than once) that you have an excessive need to be "right"?
- Do you feel, more often than not, that you do not receive the respect that you deserve?
- Do you have difficulty letting others get close to you (difficulty trusting)?
- Does it feel like most of your intentions are misinterpreted or misunderstood?
If yes to any two questions, you likely have a problem with anger.
Have you ever asked yourself...
"Why do I keep hurting those I love the most?"
Society's only answer has been to educate the Angry Man, teaching him "thinking skills" and "quick fix strategies," hoping that his anger will magically disappear. Countless numbers of Angry Men have proven that education alone does not facilitate long term change. He must address the fundamental issues fueling his angry behavior.It is the intense and difficult underlying emotions that are the causes and root of his problem.
- I help Angry Men identify the underlying causes that fuel their feelings of anger and angry behavior.; Distorted Anger is his emotional response to his own false perceptions and assumptions. He creates inaccurate scenarios that result in him feeling threatened. He feels justified to attack.
- When I work with Angry Men, I see individuals who unknowingly use anger to protect and keep hidden their feelings of sadness, regret, and fear of failure. They are reacting to unresolved core feelings deep within the psyche.
- I help Angry Men accept ownership for their actions and behaviors. He must accept truths about himself before he will be able to achieve permanent change. Progress for the Angry Man is largely based on his willingness to accept and “see”difficult truths about himself. The work he will do is difficult. If it was easy, he would have already done it.
- I help Angry Men find themselves, develop self-respect, and be the quality men they have always wanted to be. Angry Men have spent their lives overreacting to people, places, and things. He is dominated by the world around him. He attempts to mask this truth through demonstrations of power and control.
- His internal foundation is infested with shame and self-hatred. He rejects himself. And if he is honest, he will admit feeling alone and feeling neither “connected” to anyone nor "a part of" of anything.
- The Angry Man has learned how "not to feel" and "not to trust." He isolates to protect and strikes out to defend. He remains alone in the world: fearful, shameful, defensive and bitter. These feelings drive the angry man to react the way he does.
I understand because I've been there. I used to be an Angry Man. And if I can change, so can you.
Read my story my story and see if you can relate.
I am happy today, both inside and out. My life is no longer dependent on people being the way I decide they should be.
I have ability to trust myself, and then others. And I have healthy relationships these days.
Sure, I get angry--everyone does. But today I do so without blowing up. I no longer have to act just because I have angry feelings.
My life is good. I have self-respect and the respect of others. I am genuine. People smile when they see me and actually mean it.
Today, my feelings are not determined by what happens. But instead, by how I choose to deal with what happens.
IF YOU ARE READY TO ACCEPT THAT YOUR WAY ISN'T WORKING, THEN I AM READY TO HELP.
But you must be willing to change for yourself--first.
Then and only then can you become the husband, father, son, friend or colleague - the quality man you have always wanted to be.
HELPING ANGRY MEN BECOME THE QUALITY MEN
THEY HAVE ALWAYS WANTED TO BE
"THE ANGER GUY"
EVAN L. KATZ , M.C., LPC
555 Sun Valley Dr. Ste B-1
Roswell, GA 30076